Now I want to be clear and state that I am not a male basher and I don't believe that this applies to all men. I love men! I truly believe that people are capable of change. I also believe in my theory that in the beginning of your relationship or in ample enough time into your relationship you can see if the person has the potential to grow and change for the better.
I have been in relationships and have even witnessed relationships where the woman demands change. The man will actually hear her out and will attempt to change for a good 72 hours and then they're back to normal. Their normal. They change long enough so that they can get a verbal acknowledgement from their mate and then slowly step back into old habits. Some people's standards are low enough to accept that small amount of change, give them credit and move along. Sadly the issue will come up again and the short-term change will be brought up in a negative way. Now the situation is worse off than before.
Common sense is not common so it is hard to say :pay attention" and "look out for red flags". Even I experienced ignoring red flags in past relationships. I ignored them because I didn't want to consider myself judgmental or didn't think that those small things were big deals. Unfortunately for me... some of those red flags led to broken bones, bloody situations and even surgery.
Don't be a fool and sit down watching the watching the clock and the calendars change. Don't fall for short-term changes just to shut you up. Don't accept minimal change especially if you are giving your all. Don't waste anymore of your valuable time and moments on someone who won't give you that same consideration. When someone is it really invested in your happiness they will drive 4 hours just to spend one hour with you and to make you happy. They also have the assurance that you would do the same for them.
♡ STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS ♡
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