I have had many relationships. What I mean by many relationships includes business, friendships, family, and intimate. It's sometimes hard to come to grips and realize that people are not going to respond the same way you do or think and feel the same way you do. That is actually one of my greatest challenges. I expect for people to have the same sympathy, common sense and great ideas. It's so challenging for me that I find myself often on the defense.
After finding myself hurt I saw many people's actions I came to the realization that I allowed them to do that to me. I allow people to cross over into my personal space, feelings, and thoughts. I allowed them to spread their negativity so thick that it became a heavy weight blanket on me. And then I was left with trying to figure out how to remove the pain.
I heard one of my very best friends say that she doesn't allow people to get inside of that space. She says she knows she has total control over who she allows to get on her nerves or not! For some silly reason I couldn't wrap my mind around how she have that control. As much as I love to be in charge of things I wasn't able to be in charge of myself in that sense! I had to learn that craft right away! He says it's as simple as cutting people off, cutting off the conversation, walking away from confrontation and to stop trying to prove myself to others. That sounded like some pretty tough homework.
I had to realize that I was tired of being hurt and tired of just plain old being tired of the things I was going through. I had to learn to stop ignoring red flags and all of those relationships I mentioned before. I had to remember that it's called a red flag for a reason. I had to stop people in their tracks who try to spill their negativity over on me or attempt to break me down. I can't keep trying to help build and console somebody who doesn't want to help themselves. I can't one better for you more than you! I had to let go of the guys that had the so-called potential but had too many red flags. I will look for those flags within the first 90 days because I don't want to waste time investing the good in me and ignoring the bad in you. I don't care how I feel or how you feel when those red flags show up. I'm so sorry for you but I must go or you must go! Trust me I will move on just fine and so will you. I refuse to tolerate people who repeatedly lie to me or start unnecessary arguments. I can't sit around clenching my chest for somebody who isn't clenching theirs. I have enough ailments as it is LOL!
I have years abuse in my past. I have come a long way in finding my strength, knowing my worth and rebuilding. I love my mental space and I protect it by any means!
♡ STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS ♡
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