Everyday I really strive to learn something. I read, I ask advice and pay attention. In all of my years, I have had my share of bad decisions. There are some bad decisions that I still stick by even though the outcome wasn't so sweet. There are a lot of them I wish I had listened or been advised because the outcome still rings in my memory. I try to pass on that knowledge so that no one else gets there as fast as I did.
I have also learned that some people ask you for advice but won't take it. WTH? Why ask if you won't take it? Well, even though people come to you for your wisdom or knowledge, they actually don't respect your point of view & it isn't wanted. They just want your ear. There are also those who want your ear but hate the fact that you actually have a logical solution. Sounds crazy right? I know this first hand.
I, truly, have many people that come to me for advice and get mad when I advise them. Some like to wait until I make a mistake and throw that back at me like what I did made absolutely no sense to them.
Everything I do has a purpose or some sense to it honey...lol!
I am too old to be making haphazard decisions that will affect my life. I have my kids to think of, my stress level which affects my health and I don't have money for bond!
Everyone needs some sort of structure, guidance, or advice in this life. Remember, two minds are better than one! We need this because we can't stay the same and we don't know everything. So talking to someone who has your best interest is the smart thing to do. We need to know why things failed or didn't turn out exactly the way we wanted it to and we need some instruction or guidance on how to fix it or not allow it to happen again. We are in need of repair!
This is why my life is pretty much an open book when it comes to my discussions with my friends and family. I don't want advice from that person that's going to agree with everything I do. I know I do quite a few things wrong. I appreciate when someone tells me "no Stevie, that's not right:! This is also why I read so much and research things because I know I am always in the state of repair. I want to improve and get better. I think people see that quality in me and that's why they come to me for advice. I feel I am very easy to talk to and that's apparent because I am called so often. I expect to be heard as well though! I strongly feel that if you call me with your long story, in need of advice, then I expect for you to at least partially absorb what I'm saying and take it into consideration. Now it is clearly up to YOU because it's YOUR life and YOUR decisions but don't come back with another story when it could have been fixed the first time!
Now .....I know I could use a little bit more patience in that area lol and I am clearly working on that!. To demonstrate and prove to you that I am working on it:
*I do listen and let them get whatever it is off of their chest but I am honest.
*Along with my honesty is some understanding and non judgement. I know I do some things that people don't understand and I don't want to be judged either. If you ask for help or clairity or advice then I am going to honestly let you know how I see it and what I feel about it. *After so many conversations I throw my hands up just like they do on those cooking shows when the timer runs out. I move out the way and allow you to bump your head again or fall into that hole.
We repeat what we don't repair! It's simple. If you're not willing to make changes and don't attempt to make changes then you're going to repeat the same actions. You'll sadly remember that those same actions had difficult consequences. One way or another you will be reminded. It's up to you to make the change.
♡STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS♡
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