Yes small changes leads to Big results. This was something my sister and I were discussing just yesterday. We often run into people that aren't willing to change in the situations that they are in. They complain about certain things over and over again but they won't accept any accountability and they won't come up with the idea that maybe it's them. They don't want to evaluate the situation to see if there's anything that they can do differently to solve it. It's always the world that's the problem.
In our journey of relationships we have to take responsibility for our part in it. And a relationship can mean friendship, work-related, family, and a love relationship. We have to know that we have a part in these relationships in the success and also in the failure.
It is very hard for some of us to really take a step back when looking at that mirror image of ourselves and really see what's going on beyond the surface. It's almost a special skill to be able to pick yourself apart and also have the motivation and the knowledge on how to improve and move forward. You should have it in you to not want to repeat mistakes. Something should spark the motivation to not repeat the terrible feeling that you're having. If you keep ending up in the same situations or keep having the same ill feelings then you should really look at the journeys that led to that. Is there anything that you could have or can do differently to produce a different outcome? Also are you willing to do anything different to produce a different outcome?
As you can see I am always going to relate things in the case of domestic violence because I really want to bring awareness. We need to understand our parts in relationships that aren't good for us. We need to make small changes in order to improve ourselves and our ways of thinking in order to leave. You have to know that you are worthy and deserving of a good journey in any of these relationships. If those certain needs are not being met and you are on the abused end of it then you need to make changes to get out of it. If you are on the abusive end of it you need to make changes to stop.
I know a guy that is extremely miserable in his relationship and complains all the time. His reasons for staying, in my opinion, are not a strong valid list for me to stay in misery. We have the tendency to make a list of reasons why we should do something that causes us to be miserable. We don't include ourselves and our happiness as a reason why we shouldn't be in it. I thought you were supposed to put your list of good things and then put your list of bad things and if one side outweighs the other then that's the way your decision should go. For some reason that method has changed. We have become stagnant when it comes to our needs and wants. We tend to disappear into the bushes like that Homer Simpson meme. We are afraid to feel good and enjoy life and that's simply ridiculous. Take control of your destiny and make the decision to go. Make the decision to fight for what's best for you even though it may be a hard Road. It was a hard road getting to where you are and resting in this state of unhappiness right? So why not take the hard road that has a good end result? Again, make some small changes and pace yourself until you get to where you need to be. It's not going to be quick and easy but the pace on the road to happiness is worth it!
♡STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS ♡
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