Third Time...My Charm is a painful experience through the mind of a woman, looking for love. Her choices in relationships will make you laugh, make you mad and even make you cry. She ends up in abusive situations that she hides. He theory is...it wasn't that much of abuse as other people. Well, it was!
Sounds real crazy huh? Well, I agree! That woman I just described was ME!!
Millions of people experience some sort of Domestic Violence on many levels: physical, emotional, mental, verbal, etc. Men and women have different views on what is tolerable and what's not. None of it is okay. And I need to share these messages.
Today, the idea of relationships has drastically changed. Couples are looking more at self than at each other. Working together is becoming more of a struggle because we are developing the attitude of self-righteousness and being self-centered. Catering to your mate is more of a task than a joy. In mentioning that, this new wave of thinking and acting seems to stem from what they're taught. Many are being raised in broken homes and "living by example" is now a Lifetime movie.
Patience, tolerance and respect have all taken on a new meaning. THERE IS NONE!
Some are starting to expect more than what they deserve and get angry when they don't get what they want. This undeserving individual is most likely spoiled, feels inadequate or a controlling narcissist. Whoa! There's so many ways that we can approach this type of person and why it leads to abuse. However it comes to the point of abuse, the reason is not a valid one. It is not okay to take out your past issues, frustrations, or inadequacies on your mate. There is no room for "understanding" with abuse. Unfortunately, we have accepted these excuses and made them okay. I know I did. This is why I speak openly about this.
I need for all to know that abuse is displayed in so many ways and this oftentimes sways our reception of abuse. For instance, it is not okay for your mate to cheat and blame you because they're lacking attention. It is not okay to push you up against the wall because they want to get their point across. It's not okay to get so close to yell at you that you feel the spit of every word land on your face. It's not okay to call you a "bitch" or "punk bitch" from your mate because they want you to feel the sting of their inner feelings. It is not okay for your mate to leave disrespectful posts on social media to embarrass you because they are "all in their feelings". It is not acceptable for your mate to destroy your things because they "didn't want to put hands on you". It's not acceptable for your mate to open your mail (and against the law), go through your phone, or through your computer. It's pretty much stalker material for your mate to follow you around town when you're away from them. Honey, they are not that concerned about your safety!
It doesn't stop there....
It is creepy for them to smell you or your clothes, trying to figure out where you've been and with whom. It's way too much to demand that you stay with them so they can keep an eye on you. It is inconsiderate for them to forget about you on holidays or make excuses. It is not necessary that they demand to have your phone code, passwords, etc. It isn't necessary that they invite themselves to sit with your boys or kick it with you and your girls. It isn't funny for them to insult you and then brush it off as a joke. It is taking things to far to tell them what to wear, when they can or cannot go somewhere and what time to return. It is clearly wrong for your mate to put their hands on you. Even if they apologize!
Oh...there's so much more!
♡STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS♡
We have to stop making any form of abuse okay and acceptable!!!
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