Soo... ..has anybody noticed that the roles in relationships have changed?!! Well I have! It seems to be that men are now seeking a more secure relationship. It also seems like the women are a little more hardcore and are more liberal in keeping a "maintenance man" instead of a relationship. The women have a lower level of tolerance to nonsense and kicking players to the curb. They are NOT giving men the chances of getting over with their lies and games.
Now don't get me wrong... I am in no way a male basher. I do not put men in in one category. They are all so "deliciously" different and they all come with different sets of baggage. I'm just saying even the good ones have to go through a rigorous regimen in order to reach the pot of gold. It seems that more women are picking and choosing what they are willing to deal with and what category they want to put that man in; side piece, main man or friend with benefits.
On the new flip side, men are more cautious of what woman they want to deal with. It seems quite a few of them have been scorned but still seek a good woman. On their journey for love, they are moving much slower. So slow that it is now taking weeks in order to get a kiss from him! What the what?!
WHEW CHILE...I KNOW!
I'm telling you! Men are putting us through their own tests and making sure that they are comfortable and feel safe along the way. They are the ones that have been through rough times and not feeling strong enough to go through it again. They are very protective of their hearts and giving their all in order to find "the one". They are the ones that are making their lists and checking it twice.
Do you remember when Chilli from TLC had her own reality show where she was trying to find the perfect guy? That show aired so long ago but I never forgot it. She had such an extensive list that the dating experts felt that she was never going to find this person. They felt her list was way too precise and, that guy that she was looking for, never existed. From then on people were making remarks like " you must have a Chili's list" when it came to high demanding women. Well ladies, the men now have the "Chili's list"!
So my question and thought of the day is.. are you willing to date a guy that has such a list? Are you patient enough to ensure his heart? Would you do the things, for him, that you require?
Surely I am talking about a guy that's worthy of your time and effort. A guy that shows qualities of a good man is worth it.
Walk with him through his checklist.
Get to know him and his fears. Assure him that you are willing and patient. He deserves the effort just like you. It's okay for him to actually feel hurt or afraid. He is more of a man because he admits his fears than running from them. He shows true strength by opening up and sharing his past hurts and how that affects his future. He is focused and showing what he's truly looking for in a woman and it makes sense. It subtracts the idea of games being played. If he's looking for more than a big butt and a smile, then that is growth!
So, again ladies, since the roles have reversed a little, we need to be more patient. Still have your own list of wants and needs but be willing to slow down a bit to the worthy man's pace. Prepare yourself for long talks and a lot of listening. I'm sure he will come out of his shell and be THAT GUY!
BLESSINGS AND LOVE!
♡ STEVIE MICHAELS SPEAKS ♡
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